Empowering Women

I recently had a somewhat unexpected and disappointing experience at a local Chicago fitness studio. During the workout, the trainer criticized another fitness studio in a way that I felt was slut-shaming.

Why is it somehow acceptable to shame another woman if it includes slut shaming? As if it excuses mean commentary to frame it in a way that shames her for being sexual? You get a pass because she’s so slutty, I won’t even question that you agree with what I’m saying? 

No one said anything during class. Maybe no one else was offended. But I found it not only unprofessional to criticize another fitness studio, but disappointing that the trainer would put down other women during a strength workout for women! It was odd feeling both empowered by my own strength while simultaneously deflated by someone else’s judgment. Because you know what, I do “slutty” things in public.

I ended up emailing the studio (in response to their presumably automated “thank you for coming, here’s a discount on membership” email) to express my thoughts, and did get a reply back from the trainer that was part apology, part excusing what she said because she didn’t mean it the way I took it.

But this isn’t necessarily an isolated thing. Why does women’s sexuality threaten some people? Why do they think it’s acceptable to criticize or shame a woman because she’s slutty or does something that we perceive as slutty, and therefore she’s bad, and that excuses them from being judgy assholes?

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With Nina, one of my burlyQ besties and LoveCats duet partner and all-around inspiring empowered woman, getting sweating and strong at a studio that is definitely NOT the inspiration behind this post. 

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  1. I really want to track down this person and ask them a million questions…and shame them for thinking it’s a good idea to do kettle bell swings into goblet squats.
    You are equally as empowered and inspiring Kitten! ❤

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