Six years

Six years ago, we got married.

Last year, I wrote posts about how we met and started dating, and our wedding, so I won’t rehash those. Instead, I’ll share what I’ve learned this year.

For me, this year of marriage was about letting go. Letting go of the idea of what a marriage is “supposed” to be like, what married couples are “supposed” to do. This year, I finally stopped focusing on what other married/committed couples do compared to what we do or don’t do.

And you know what? Once I let go, and stopped worrying that we’re doing it “wrong,” and instead focused on what actually makes usΒ happy,Β things got a lot better. Crazy, huh? I just wish it didn’t take me so long to figure it out, but at least I eventually did. Because I’m kind of crazy about the old ball & chain.

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19 Comments on “Six years”

  1. Happy Anniversary! I think that’s a really good lesson to learn, and I totally understand. For a while I would compare my relationship to others too – why are they getting married when they haven’t been dating as long as we are? When will we buy a house like everyone else? When will we have kids, etc. But who cares what everyone else is doing? You’re not everyone else, and maybe all those other people aren’t even as happy as they appear (hopefully they are, but you know…). As long as you’re happy, that’s really all that matters. And getting off of my soapbox.

    1. Yes, exactly! Also, completely agree that it’s pointless to compare yourself to other couples (or anyone, period) when you don’t know how happy they REALLY are.

  2. Happy anniversary, Maggie!!! I went back to read your posts about how you met and about your wedding day, and I loved hearing all the details. You look SO GORGEOUS in your wedding pictures – your dress is just beautiful and you are positively glowing! Cheers to many more great years of marriage still to come for you!!!

  3. Happy anniversary! Here’s to many more to come. πŸ™‚ As someone who will be getting married in a few months, I appreciate this post and will do my best to not compare my future marriage to those of others–that seems like a really smart thing to do. Enjoy your day!

  4. Happy Anniversary!!! I looked back at the post with all the pictures and you looked gorgeous! I love that dress..I actually think one of my good friends had the same one. Hope you have many more happy years together!!! πŸ™‚

    1. Thanks! The dress was from David’s Bridal, so I’m sure there were many brides around that time with the same dress πŸ™‚ I loooove that dress so much – it’s still in my closet.

  5. Happy Anniversary!

    Oh gosh. There are a million things you could compare marriage on to others. Do what makes YOU TWO happy! That is what we do! πŸ™‚ Okay, okay, we do what makes ME happy. Muah ha ha.

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