For me, this year of marriage was about letting go. Letting go of the idea of what a marriage is “supposed” to be like, what married couples are “supposed” to do. This year, I finally stopped focusing on what other married/committed couples do compared to what we do or don’t do.
And you know what? Once I let go, and stopped worrying that we’re doing it “wrong,” and instead focused on what actually makes us happy, things got a lot better. Crazy, huh? I just wish it didn’t take me so long to figure it out, but at least I eventually did. Because I’m kind of crazy about the old ball & chain.