The Downsides of Navy Wife Alone Time

Yesterday, I posted about the perks of Navy Wife Alone Time, which I am currently experiencing while he’s off at annual training. Well, of course there are downsides too:


When he misses my birthday: The first two years he was in the Navy, The Sailor missed my birthday. Last year, he came home from his annual training on my birthday. This year he’s doing AT right now, meaning my birthday is safe!

2010: He missed tapas and a burlesque show. I promise there were actually boys there (I know my brothers were there … and possibly one boyfriend).


When I have to go to weddings alone: We were invited to a wedding in May (three, actually), and he was on duty that weekend. Luckily my friend Chris was there stag, so I wasn’t the odd woman out.

The guy to the left of me is the groom. The gal to the left of him is my sister-in-law. The guy to the right of me (with the beard) is my middle-older brother.


When I have to go to family reunions alone: Last summer, my dad’s family had a huge family reunion. The Sailor was on duty that weekend. I got to share a hotel room with my parents! It was a great preview to moving in with them the following month.

What’s up, fam?


Always having to check weekend plans: Whenever we want to do something fun, we always have to check and see if he’s on duty that weekend. And sometimes I have to go to stuff solo. Which is OK, I’m a big girl. But I like having my buddy around.

Ken & Andrea's Wedding


Luckily, we have yet to experience a deployment, but I’m sure that has an entirely different list of downsides.

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5 Comments on “The Downsides of Navy Wife Alone Time”

  1. I can definitely relate to this post. My Bf travels anywhere from 25-60% a month. So planning events in advance is always tough. We always need to check dates. The alone time is good, but after a week or 2, gets kinda lonely sometimes. At least I have my pup.

    1. I try to enjoy the alone time – I mean, what other choice do I have, so may as well make the most of it, right? Also, that’s why I got my cat! I adopted her during the 5 months he was gone at boot camp and then A-school. The apartment we were living in at the time didn’t allow pets, but we had been there for awhile, and were good tenants, and I was able to guilt our landlord by telling him that my husband was leaving for the Navy.

  2. You are a patient woman 🙂 I have problems accepting schedule limitations – also i am a chronic over-booker. I would go crazy if Matt had to be gone most weekends!

  3. You are one strong strong lady 🙂 You seem to have the right mindset though – no situation is perfect and there will always be downsides but staying strong and positive is key. Sometimes being apart is a great reminder of how important you and your significant other are to each other.

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