I’ve decided to see a therapist again.
I saw a therapist a few years ago (maybe 6-7 years ago?) when I was feeling unhappy and frustrated and needed some help navigating out of that. Now I’m feeling … well, like I’m not doing what I need to be my happiest … and I’m not quite feeling frustrated, but I feel like I need help navigating through my own head to find my path to … living my best life. To be really trite.
So why see a therapist instead of just talking to my partners, friends, family, etc? Well, for one thing … I have been talking to them. And I feel like I need someone else to talk to.
Someone who is objective. Who has no personal bias and no opinion when it comes to my life. Someone who will listen without distraction, and without expecting something in return. (Well, other than payment.) And someone who is equipped with the training and tools to help me navigate through my thoughts.
I’ve been telling myself for awhile to make an appointment and see someone, and I kept putting it off. So I definitely had to encourage myself to even get this far again. I’ve only gotten through the initial getting-to-know-me first session (I’m seeing a different therapist than who I saw years ago), but already, I feel like this is going to be helpful. I think this will help me get some perspective, and some direction, and help me sort through what’s going through my head. I told my therapist that I don’t feel aimless, rather, I feel like I’m aiming at a lot of different things. Maybe that’s good, or maybe it’s too much.
Anyway, going to therapy isn’t some bold new idea, tons of people go to therapy every day. But, I wanted to share to bring a little bit of normalcy to it. If you’ve been thinking of going to therapy, whether you’ve gone before or not, I encourage you to go! Also, speaking from experience, if you want to go to therapy to work through relationship issues but your partner(s) won’t go, consider going to therapy on your own anyway.
Finding the right therapist can be challenging, but thankfully, the internet has provided us with lots of options. If you have insurance, you can start with the Find a Doctor tool on your provider’s website. Additionally, Yelp and Google Reviews can be helpful, and many practices have therapist bios on their websites. You can also reach out to a larger therapy practice and explain what you are looking for and they can recommend someone from their practice. If there is a part of your identity that you want to explore in therapy, or you want to talk to someone who is familiar with your situation (LGBTQ, non-traditional relationships, kink, specific mental diagnoses, etc), there are many resources online that list therapists who are friendly to those communities.
Have you been to therapy? Anything you’d like to share about the experience? How did you find your therapist?